London Calling

So its been 3 months since I last updated you on the younger you. (as I am planning this blog for the future-you to read about your infancy).. now that we have that confusing stuff out of the way, i shall dive into your life as I know it.

As the title suggests.. we did take a trip to London to see family and to attend your Khala Jaan’s wedding.. (my cousin Maha). We had fun. The flight there was evening so you did well. We got there and stayed in a hotel the weekend of the wedding, then moved into my Mamoojan’s house for the remainder of the trip. What we did:

Thurs: Arrive.
Fri: Attend Mehndi (where you danced your little butt off.. you were the belle of the ball and every single stranger was asking about you .. “Who’s that baby?” “She can dance!”
Sat: Make fruit/flower wedding baskets at Maha’s house to give to Groom’s family. Help get Bride’s family’s stuff ready for the big day.
Sun: Get ready all afternoon and go to 1 London Wall.. in Central .. for the beautiful and elegant wedding. A lovely hosting job by Merryl Wyn Davies.. an amazing Ghazal Tabla band on the balcony, and a handsome Bride and Groom. Delicious food too!
Mon: Get our luggage together and into Zaid’s car. Walk back to Mamoojan’s house with you in the stroller.. (I lost your Papa along the way.. which was an ordeal in itself.. but it didn’t stop us from stopping off to get some Donner Kebab and Halal Burgers once we reunited).
Tues-Fri: Try to get you on a non-jet-lag schedule! My first night of sleep since Amie was around to help! Brent Cross (the local mall in edgeware area).. get all the sleeveless and long sleeved onesies as well as cotton tights for you for the upcoming seasons in America. Its all about Marks and Spencers! Visit relatives, and I think we had a day at Camden Town, and a day checking out the UCL SOAS bookshop, the British Museum, Forbidden Planet (graphic novel heaven), and Covent Garden. Yummy day. We ate at The Tortoise and the Hare.. We had a fun time that day with your uncle Zen as he talked Philosophy to us. Poor uncle Zed had to go back to work this day.. but he was your play buddy in the evenings. I was also reading an early copy of Mamoojan’s latest book Balti Britain.. which I didn’t finish but he promised to mail me a copy when the real ones come in. No matter how much i begged and pleaded he wouldn’t let me take it.

The following weekend we went to Cardiff in Wales to attend the Valima. We met UncleZ’s family and friends, as well as an old family friend Gale who made it out. Merryl was also there, as she lives in Wales. Uncle Laig’s family also made it out, which was lovely.

Back from Wales.. we spent the final week visiting remainder of the relatives and friends. Also, did a walking tour (Zed as our tourguide) around the sights.. Buckingham Palace, Westminster Abbey, St. James Park (the famous pictures of your babyness running through the grass with us.. holding a ribena bottle, feeding the duckies, etc..).. and then met up Zen at Trafalgar Square… then we had a lovely panini lunch and gourmet coffees at a local Cafe before heading home… that night we went to the Rza (Wutang Clan) concert with the newly married couple. Fun.

The rest of the days were also filled with walking to the tube station and wandering around the enticing city of London, as well as catching up with the old family.. what more could you want in a trip? You enjoyed it all.. including the rainstorms which we were dreading as we didn’t have a rainguard for your lightweight travel stroller.

The trip back was a disaster.. but i guess i have to pay somewhere for having such a great, eventful two weeks. I’ll tell you about it someday . just remind me with these key words that should spark up some memories .. (middle-seats, allergies upon entrance to plane, nasal passages swollen, baby wide awake entire 10 hour flight, mommy constantly entertaining, mommy booted to floor from where mommy entertains child sitting on seat, child wanting to run through isles screaming and putting finger in sleeping-passengers ears, there’s more but i think that should do it). It’s all good though.. I still love you. Thats a mama for ya.

15 Month Baby’s Habits

So this is what you are up to lately:

So one cool thing is that you have an ear for music. Not surprising as your father produces music and your mother has always been involved in music in some way or another. As a matter of face your parents met because we had both been working on stuff for the same music label. Remarkable Current. So at this point in your life you recognize many songs. In particular there are four songs which you are able to not only recognize, but sing to us.

1. Allahu (your zikr lullaby that you’d been hearing since birth).
2. Twinkle Twinkle Little Star (your favorite part is “Like a Diamond in the Sky”.
3. “Where is Adam” otherwise known as Ferrajhakka.. if your french that is-
4. Winnie the Pooh.. starting with the slow part “Down in the 100 acre wood .. where Christopher Robin plays… etc, etc,

In addition to this, you have been saying random terms and phrases such as:

1. Mama, Dada, Baba, Taaa
2. Where are you Guys (or so it sounds like that)
3. There she is (which is what we say to her when she hides or during Taa (peek-a-boo)
4. Papoo (meaning- kiss)

You also will do “Veiheetas” on demand. It means “old-lady” in Spanish and refers to a scrunched up face you make with your nose squashed while you make sniff sniff sounds with your nose. We love when you do that one.

You can walk, run, and pick up big things. You can eat anything and everything! You can definitely dance. You hold and hug Sumaya. You like older kids and you play with them, and give them hugs and kisses. You can pick up really tiny things off the floor and put it in your mouth.. similar to a vacuum cleaner!

Plus you are still nursing so you make that clear in public by grabbing my shirt and pulling when you please. Naughty gyal!

You love to get scarves and clothing and any fabric, throw it over your head or around your neck, and walk around dragging it behind you like a queen with a robe on. Most of the time you cover your entire face with my scarves and walk around the house like a ghost.

You love to write and draw but we can’t give you the pen for too long cuz you will take it everywhere and draw on your own face as well as anything else you find.

You love to share with your tiny little friends.

(other than Adam and Sumaya) Your friends are:

Ibrahim, Samarrah, Sumaya, Talha, Sophia and Mimi, Leyla, Aasia, Madiha, Fatima, Madeena, Salma, Shawni, Siddiq, Omar, and there are many more that you don’t see as much. On your trip to London your buddy was Abdus Samad and Sufyaan.

You are very sensitive, loving, caring, emotional, smart, creative, organized, logical, and more. Your Great Uncle Shuja in London (father of Aunti Ayesha).. he plays in a string quartet and is very into his botanical garden.. a very lovely man.. he noticed the things in your personality.. for instance when he gave you a toy, you first put the toy you had in your hand back in to toy box, then you gently got the doll from him, put it over your shoulder, and tapped its back to nurture it. Insha’allah one day you will be a nurturing woman and maybe even a mother and possibly even a grand mother! weird thought, but could be true.. we are all descendents of people we have no idea about!

Other than that, you are just a cool cat with an amazingly warm and charismatic personality. Everyone who meets you falls in love with you.

Happy First Birthday Baby

Happy Birthday Darlin. You just turned one years old. We celebrated your birthday two weekends in a row. We had a birthday party for you at Amie and Baba’s house where all the family attended. We had a Vegan Chocolate Cake (for your egg allergy) with Fruit on top. You ate all the fruit, but not the cake part. You love fruit, so thats why I picked that one. The family gave you lovely gifts including a singing nursery rhymes book, a dora the explorer bike, clothing, shoes, a coat, and more. And then last weekend at our house we had dinner and birthday party for you here. Again we gave you lots of fruit for your dessert. The entire Hernandez family was here including your Uncle Tonio from Mexico who is visiting and said “I am in love” the moment he layed eyes on you. Mama and Papa gave you a little baby doll for your birthday since you have many other great educational and fun toys. We thought maybe you’d like a little one that looks just like you but way tinier to nurture. So you have been putting the baby over your tiny shoulder and patting it to sleep. You are learning a lot at this stage. Understanding what we are saying, but not exactly talking. You sing your zikr during the day, but especially at night when you are ready for Papa to put you to sleep. I am still nursing you mostly from 8pm all night and up till noon the next day. You are usually with one of your Grandparents during the weekdays from around 12 to 7 when I go to work. Life as a working mother is busy and challenging, but rewarding. My time with you is my favorite time in the day. At work, I am able to do something to contribute to society, the community, and to our family. What I am learning at work is especially important to me because it is what I will use to educate you. I am learning different techniques of teaching people how to learn, how to read, how to comprehend, and I plan to use all of these strategies with you so that you will benefit from something that will make a world of a difference in your life. I teach children one on one for an hour per child for about 5 hours a day. It is called the Lindamood-Bell Learning Process. Apart from this I am still working on the documentary film which should be done next year Insha’allah. There is a meeting this week for it, and I am looking forward to it because I have not been able to put too much time into it lately. Its hard juggling work, family and more. I need an extra day in the weekend. On another note, the Primary elections have been going on. For the Republicans the front runner is John McCain and for the Democrats the front runners are Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama. I am currently reading Barack Obama’s book, The Audacity of Hope. I read his memoir also a year back. Also, I am listening to the CD version of Hillary’s “Living History” in my car during my commute. My vote thus far is for Obama because I feel like he is a real person with a conscious, a new brain (which we need!!), and he is not tainted by the Politics of being in politics as of yet, so i hope! But we’ll see what happens. Either way, the George W. Bush days have lasted long enough! Goodbye. Okay speaking of Goodbyes, it is Fajr. I’m off to bed.

Mamoojan’s Blog

I just got through reading the first post of a blog that your Great Uncle has just started. Just like you have a few mamoojans, I have mine, and he is the eldest.. so known to me as barre mamoojan (big uncle), he is known to the rest of the world as Ziauddin Sardar, cultural critic, writer and broadcaster.

So the blog is through The Guardian.. where he has contributed much of his writing and ideas. His work is amazing and inspiring, so when you are about 14 years old I think you may be ready to begin reading his works. So keep a note to self: The year 2022 is the year you should probably start some intensive studies and reading. I think that age is good, but who knows you may start much earlier as your track record has proved you to be quite an intelligent little one.

Anyway- the blog is about the Qur’an. The first post is called From Mother to Madrassa. Reading the first portion made me picture my Mamoojan as a young boy sitting on Amma (your great grandma)’s lap as she taught him to read the Qur’an. Beyond that he went into the importance of interpreting the Qur’an based on the time and place.. it is hard for me to put into words just how deeply important this concept is.. but as you grow up you will figure it out. The failure to actively understand and interpret the Qur’an, and to blindly accept age old interpretations and understandings as absolute and binding, will take the universality out of Islam.. and that is Islam’s most valued characteristic.

Here it is:

http://www.guardian.co.uk/religion/Story/0,,2235797,00.html

Or you can find it on the “Comment is Free” Blog-site.

I hope that link works for you over a decade from now when you will be reading these blogs. Who knows what will happen between now and then. Good luck with it.

Also.. since we are on the topic of Mamoojan. I want you to read this book of his.. its my favorite:

Desperately Seeking Paradise by ZIauddin Sardar (the humor in it will keep you reading).

I also enjoyed the book:

“Why do People Hate America” by Ziauddin Sardar.. which is very informative and also full of fun anecdotes some of which i got to hear him speak on live as he happened to be on his book tour in New York when I was going to Graduate school there. Here is one that I remember. It was a rainy day when he was in New York. I walked up from my East River apartment to the St. Marks Church-in-the-Bowery.. I am not sure but I think that was the location of this event. Mamoojan spoke on his book “Why do People Hate America” there. It didn’t even reach the bookshelves in most of California, but New York has a little more edge. He was funny, I remember. I was laughing in my pew.

He talked about globalization mainly. A funny story. He was in some remote part of Indonesia, I think it was, and he wanted to find a place and a people that were as untouched as possible. So he had heard about this tribe that was living in a place that was only accessable by forest, then by canoe, and several more strenuous obstacles. So he made the arduous trek there with a guide. Upon his arrival he was greeted warmly and invited into their unique hand made huts. He took mental notes as he spent time getting to know the customs of the people. After joining them for a meal, they invited him to take part in some amazing nightly ritual that they did. He was curious to know what this would be, as they had been referring to it and bringing it up throughout the meeting.

Finally, the time had come. They took him to another room and instead of unveiling some ancient mystery they drew the sheet off a television and pressed play on a video of Arnold Shwartzeneggar’s blockbuster hit, The Terminator. All to say, that no matter where he went, there was no escaping the Governator (as we now call him).. or anything else to do with popular culture exported from the U.S. By the time you read this Safiyah, there won’t even be a chance to escape this stuff. But I have been planning to ban TV and home school you.. so we’ll see!

Happy New Year

So my darling it is the new year and you have been in this world about 10.5 months. Your latest is that you just got your first tooth!!!!! Mubarak! You are standing for 5 seconds and then you plop onto your well padded diaper butt. You are crawling 60 mph. You are understanding us when we play peek-a-boo, say bye, say “nai” (no) or “uh oh”.. so you are a smart one.

I have big dreams for you Safiyah. You can do so much with your life. I often think that I want you to have the things that I missed when I was growing up.. and I don’t mean that in terms of material things because a lack of material things builds character I believe. What I want is for you to have access and resources that were unavailable to me. I want you to know that you have access to any information or experience that I, your father and everyone from our families has to offer you, as well as all of our friends. So use it! If you need to know about colleges/universities, if you want to know about how to deal with a life situation, if you need any kind of help, if you want to find a shortcut to something, if you have life goals and want to know how to achieve them.. whatever it is, there are many people who can talk to you based on their own life experiences.

One think I might advise you is to ALWAYS SEEK ADVICE for all things, but USE YOUR OWN SENSE OF JUDGEMENT to determine what action you want to take based on your evaluation of the situation and any advice given to you. Sometimes people give you advice based on their own experiences.. which is fine because it is all they can offer you.. and that may help you out a lot.. OR it may not work for you. Figure it out!

Happy New Year

Safiyah you are now 10 months old. It is about an hour and a half into the new year and you are sleeping in bed with your sweet little body curled up. Your father and I were just talking about how cute you are and how we just can not believe what an angel you are. The last month you enjoyed your first Eid-ul-Adha, and your first Christmas. You got many many presents for both occasions from family and friends. These are gifts that you probably won’t remember. Mostly toys and clothes. Here are some things I want you to do when your older.. if you want.

1. Watch the television series LOST. It will I’m sure be old news by the time you are older, but we love it and think its amazing, so we think you should probably watch it too. Some other shows that you might enjoy but will also be obsolete when you are older.. TAXI, COLUMBO, and one that i loved when i was a teenager MY SO CALLED LIFE. By all this I don’t mean to tell you to watch a whole bunch of TV, because that is not good at all. But if you are gonna watch something .. instead of watching the trash on TV, get a dvd of one of these shows, and enjoy!

2. You should probably visit Japan because I did.. not to say that you should relive my life and do everything I did.. ofcourse I want you to live your own life and enjoy your own experiences. One of my friends, Debbie, was very articulate in explaining to me that you are not an extension of me (well you are in a way, but u know what i mean) and that your life will come with its own purpose, experiences, and you will be different. Its true because you already have a totally different childhood than I did, because you and I have different parents.. even when Grammy and Grandpa watch you, they are not the people they were 28 years ago when I was a baby, so they are communicating to you differently and think of you differently. Grandparents are usually different with their grandkids than they were with their own kids.

3. Another thing that you should probably do is read alot. There is so much information and knowledge out there. Be very careful though, not to fill your head with useless information. Reading things that will benefit you is important. That is so broad but Insha’allah you will be able to figure it out- that is if I raise you right and you are an intellectual, independent, and conscious woman, you will figure it out.

4. One thing I don’t want you to do is to fill your life with Soap Opera type Drama. There are a lot of people out there that create drama. Please don’t be one of them or associate with people like this. You can create the life you want for yourself by being very careful about who you include in your immediate circle of friends. If there is drama in your life, as i have learned, you are either spending time with the wrong people, or creating it for yourself. You have to be practical, smart, and strong. Don’t run after stuff that is bad for you, and you know what is bad for you. Also, don’t expect others to right your situations, or do things for you. Please don’t blame others for your misfortunes. You are responsible for yoursef and the quicker you realize that, the quicker you will be a happy and peaceful person. You can control your happiness. The way you percieve something will change the way you feel about that thing. Be careful what you watch, what you read, what type of music you listen to, and who you spend your time with. Always think.. Will this benefit me? And regard the answer. Fill your life with what you truly admire and you will become that. Be friends with people you strive to be like. People that have clean hearts, dignity, and are righteous, are the ones you should look to for friendship. Remember you don’t need that many friends. And remember your best friend is YOU.

5. Always send thank you cards to people who do things for you or give you gifts. Appreciation is very important. It puts the beauty into GIVING. Always give back in some way.. I mean now to the larger community also. Charity will cleanse your soul. When you feel down, give charity. Don’t ever slack off on your Zakat or Sadaqa. Don’t give so much that you bust your bank account, only give what you can afford to give, but do give when you can. Its also very important to have financial stability for yourself. This stability will allow you to give the way you want to in the future. As for your job. You can start small, but please, do something you enjoy. Don’t waste your life away hating what you are doing, or worse off, working just for the money. Money is very important in the world we live in, but there are many ways to make it. Choose something that you will be proud of. (on the other hand, if you are in great need, you should work at whatever job will pay the bills, as long as it doesn’t conflict with your morals, values, and dignity).

6. Do Yoga. A healthy body is critical for a healthy mind, and both are critical for a healthy soul.

Autumn

Hey Safiyah.. You are now 9 months old and life is just moving along for all of us. We have moved into the 2 bedroom condo and the big improvements are done, but theres a little more to do before it is complete. You have been doing some pretty fun and interesting new things like dancing, waving bye bye, crawling 100 miles an hour, saying “I want to go to go to go,” and laughing a lot more. It is so fun to play with you and hold you and hear you laugh. Your father and I always look at you and say that you are the most beautiful thing we’ve ever seen. When we hear your voice laughing and your tiny voice trying to talk, we say that it is the most beautiful sound we’ve ever heard in our lives. Its truly a gift to be with you and to have the pleasure of holding you, playing with you, and taking care of you. I hope I have enough pictures and videos so we don’t forget this amazing time. I carry you in a little front-pack most of the time. Ever since I started working part-time, you have been staying with your Grandmas. They love you and you love them. It makes me happy to see how much you love them and want to be with them. They love taking care of you and they are excited every day you come to see them.. it never gets old.. and thats the best part. Everybody thinks that you are such a great baby because of your personality. You are calm and mellow, but also fun and happy most of the time. You only cry when you are sick or hungry.. (or really bored.. but that’s a fake cry). Its starting to get cold outside and both me and you have gotten a cold. We are both sniffling away. I have been wondering how you will be when you grow up. I hope you are a reader, because books are my favorite things in the world. No matter what you are interested in, they will open the doors to each and every world for you. Don’t ever stop reading! Ever since you were a tiny little 3 month old baby, you have loved to listen when I read to you. I was listening to a radio show in which they were talking about how 50% of Americans are not readers.. so thats why I’m emphasizing reading.. I want you to enjoy something that may be dying out in this culture. Anyway, I better go to bed now. More to come!

Good News Baby

Hey sweety. The last month has seen some major changes, developments, and yes, stresses-but all for the best. The Prophet (pbuh) said (and i very loosely quote him because I do not know the exact wording by any means) that if you are not struggling in any way in this life, than you should be worried, because the next life (the eternal afterlife) will then be a life of struggle for you. So what this is basically saying is that this life we are living is made for struggle. All of these things that happen are to test us, to see how we DEAL. When we get angry, pity ourselves, get upset, get depressed, those are all the wrong way to deal with our problems, because they are there simply to test how you as an individual will respond or react. Anyway, enough of my preaching, lets get to the point!:

Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah). We got the place!! Yey! We sorta own a home (sorta because we ofcourse have a mortgage on our heads now.. so its not like we paid the whole thing in cash, which would be the ideal situation). Its the place I mentioned before I disappeared (for about a month was it?). Yes, you got it, the fixer upper!! That means that this weekend your father and I (as well as your grandparents, and any other kind helpers) will go to the place and start working! Removing the 80s popcorn ceilings by endless scraping, painting walls, replacing all light fixtures, toilets, doors, etc.. , staining the cabinets, AND MORE. Its a 2 bedroom, 2 bath, a good move up from our one bedroom one bath. Now we get an office (you get your room in the next place, I promise!! Insha’allah). But I will say that you get your own closet! But your crib will remain in our room.

So the fun part is designing and creating a theme for each room. So we are thinking of doing the living/family room a muted teal blue. Now this color can make you think of so many different styles.. country, caribbean, etc.. But since all of our stuff is eastern, we are gonna go with a middle eastern/south asian theme. So I want to bring in lots of dark browns and creme whites. How does that sound? A pop of red and terra cotta in the rug, and ofcourse art work too. The bedroom we’ll paint this color we like to call otter. Its like a mix between gray and brown and i guess a tinge of lavendar. We are going with the East Asian minimalist look there. Next is the office. We are going with a tuscan-claypot-terracotta color for the walls to add some warmth and “feel good” to our otherwise stale computer desk decor. The bathrooms have a darker flooring which we were discouraged from choosing, however we liked it and its our first place, so we get to do what we like.. but to be practical we decided.. dark floors, we don’t want to close the tiny bathrooms in further, so we are gonna go light on the walls. So we are thinking of a creamy white- a warmer white (away from the blues). Plus I love the look of clean white absense of color, especially in the bathrooms. Color is so important for so many reasons. It sets the mood (stay away from the ultra passionate and angry reds on a wall) and remember for calmness and tranquility you can get certain shades of green (which we didn’t choose this time, but will be sure to consider next time). I love going to the paint store and getting swatches of color to inspect and consider when choosing the style.

So the other thing is that you have been spending more time than ever before with your Gwammy. I have been dropping you off there to hang out while I go to my job interviews.. yes mommy has to leave baby to go to work now if we want to be able to pay the bills.. the Bay Area is no place to live with one income .. so unless you want to move to Pittsburgh, I’m gonna have to work, at least part time. So the hardest thing for me about this whole change is leaving you obviously. I have never spent so much time away from my tiny little dumpling Safiyah. I nurse you in the morning and all evening, but now for the midday you are gonna be away from me for about 4-5 hours. The cool thing is that you are happy there. You have Gwammy, your Great Grandmother Amma, and Nanajaan your Grandfather to hang out with. They all take turns holding and playing with you. You also have Adam’s walker over there, which is now your size, a swing, and the 2nd kitchen sink has become your bathtub. So it seems like you are enjoying life. I wouldn’t have it any other way. But I just want you to know that I miss you every second of the time I am away from you. No, its not a relief to have time to myself and be away from you, although it is good to know that you are being well looked after. When I come home I pick you up and we both smile and laugh and play together. Even though you are 7 months old and can’t talk English yet, you have your own way of telling me you missed me! We are joint at the hip.

Pray that I get one of the jobs I interviewed for. (As I said before in the absense of time and space, your prayer is working for me right now- wierd concept but I believe it- if you don’t get it, check out the film “Frequency” about an old radio- its better than it sounds).

Love u kid. I’m gonna go to bed now and cuddle with you and daddy. I’m hoping to get you in that crib of yours once we’re settled into the new place. You haven’t slept a minute in it so far!

Our First Home?

Some excitement, anticipation, and anxiousness, as we are putting in an offer for our first home today. I sure hope they accept our offer, because we can’t really afford anything more. Well we are even stretching it on the offer we gave, so mommy might need to go find a job!!

We have thus far lived in a one bedroom apartment, but need another room.. no Safiyah, not for you, for our office! You are gonna continue to share our room, where your crib will be although you refuse to sleep there- Naughty girl! So my dear, pray for us (there is no barrier of time in the supernatural world of prayer), we do hope to get into our first place soon, so that by the time you are older, you will get your own room.

So we are looking at a 2-bedroom DUMP. Yes, its quite a fixer upper if I don’t say so myself. We are going to get our hands (and knees) dirty. We will have to replace pretty much everything to be honest. We will have to move into my parents house as we make the changes so we can eventually move in. But don’t look at all of that as a bad thing because I’m actually more excited about all the work than I would be if we got a mediocre place that was move-in-ready. Your mama loves a challenge baby girl, and don’t you forget it.

(If we get it) We are gonna paint it, change carpets, put in flooring, change closet doors and replace regular doors, remove the popcorn ceilings, and MUCH MORE. Okay keep your fingers crossed i’ll be back with the answer in a few days. If we don’t get it, it wasn’t meant to be anyway, and we will continue condo-hunting. Masha’Allah (As Allah Wills It)

Family BBQ

Today the whole family including Aunty F’s Mama and sister were over Big Mamoojan’s house for a BBQ. It was so fun! We had lambchops (my favorite) and many other things including Taco Salad. Anyway.. after dinner we sat down with our coffees and lemon bars and NanaJaan your Grandfather started answering some questions that different people had. One of the topics we discussed was Al Isra Wa’al Miraj. This is the special night in which the Prophet (peace be upon him) ascended into the heavens and was shown different things. We also talked about Karma (“what goes around, comes around”).. which is an important concept that basically means that whatever you give and put out.. such as good energy, good deeds, charity, helpfulness, smiles, etc.. will come back to you. But the same goes if you hurt people, act mean, be miserable and the same type of negativity will come back to you in your life. So if you want to be treated a certain way, you should treat people that way. If you want someone to react in a better way to you and your words, you should react in an even better way to other’s words and actions. And so on.. You get the point don’t you?

Hey today is the anniversary of the day me and your father met. I’m going to go give him a card. He is with you in the bedroom playing FYI.